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IN TODAY'S RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ISSUE:
Guest Article: Society's Misconception of Soul Mates, Part 2
By Barbara Rose
Today’s Relationship Advice by Nancy
"If you wish to travel far
and fast, travel light. Take off all
your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears."
*Glenn Clark
"When we extend ourselves to another human being in any way
at all, when we positively touch the life of one person, we
benefit the whole of humanity."
*Gail Pursell Elliott, "The Dignity and Respect Lady"
Society's Misconception of Soul
Mates, Part 2
By Barbara Rose
So, you have challenges that you have chosen to overcome. And
there, by your side, is this person who, for some reason you
cannot understand, has not told you to go away a long time ago.
The reason is that they are a part of you. They share your energy.
They are rooting for you. Once you decide to overcome your growth
challenges, then and only then will you receive the true bliss of
the soul-mate reunion.
The price is honest work on self, removing all old, ingrained,
negative patterns that no longer serve you, so you can finally
experience the true you, the you that you have
been working to achieve for many lifetimes in your evolutionary
process. The rewards are indescribable.
Like you, your soul mate has his own issues, which you pull out
from within his very core. Every time he tries to run away from
facing his responsibility to self, to work through and heal his
issues, there you pop up again.
So you are each faced with a choice. Avoid self growth, and leave
your true match behind, never to be forgotten, always to be longed
for – or face those aspects within yourself, work on them, and
heal them so you are finally and truly free of them. Then you will
have your special and perfect match by your side for the remainder
of this life. That is the choice.
Will you grow or stagnate?
Now, some couples refuse to grow. They refuse to resolve each
of their core issues, which are the true sources of their personal
pain. As a result, those soul mates are lost to each other for
this life. This is a sad choice for both of them. And then there
are the others, and I do hope you are one of them, who consciously
choose to say: No matter how long it takes, I will heal within,
and I know that as long as I put forth a grain of effort each day,
eventually I will walk the sands of the most peaceful
beach with my true match by my side.
Which do you choose?
It is only your choice.
For if one of the soul mates chooses to grow and the other does
not, they must part. Spiritual, universal law forbids that one
soul mate may evolve and remain with the other if the other
chooses not to evolve. That is the only reason many soul mates do
not share the remainder of their lives together.
But they never forget each other. They long for each other, and
they yearn and cry for each other in the dark of night when not
another soul sees their tears.
The struggle to grow is scary; it is not easy, yet it can and must
be done. It will be done. No matter how many lifetimes it takes,
eventually you will choose to grow.
After all, what is being asked of you is what you have actually
asked the other to come into your life for: To stand by your side
and be there for you, so you know that there is one special soul
who is there for you always and in all ways; to comfort you when
you feel afraid; to be your best friend when the rest of the world
turns its back; to challenge you to be your best even as you are
loved and accepted you when you
display your worst.
This is a gift. This is rare. Yet this is what you are entitled
to, for you have chosen to grow. You have chosen to heal, and you
have done so for important reasons.
Did you ever look within and actually feel afraid of your own
individual power? Did you ever truly know, somehow, somewhere,
that there is something you came into this life to do, something
so beyond the ordinary expressions of individuality of the masses
on this planet that you turned away, turned away from your very
self?
And when you met your true match, did you see that your soul mate
also has an inherent gift for humanity that is unlike most of the
masses inhabiting the planet? Did you consider that, like you,
your soul mate was at one time afraid of his own power, his own
potential - and needed the unconditional acceptance and support of
his true match? Did you consider that, to feel secure, he needed
to turn to the only one who could understand him and be supportive
when the rest of the masses simply could not relate to him?
That is why I say that only about two percent of human beings are
actually with their true soul mates in this life now. These are
the people who, although not better than the others, have more to
contribute to and for the others. They do not have many friends
because there is not another except their soul mate to whom they
can truly relate.
When you meet your soul mate, you recognize a quality, gifts,
potentials, and contributions to humanity and to this universe
that the vast majority of others cannot fathom, nor would they
care to.
You have chosen to meet to support each other, to be the best
friend, the one who understands. You can show every side of
yourselves to each other, and it will always be perfectly all
right. Soul mates cannot deceive or hide from each other because
they can see right through each other.
Your soul mate feels your energy. You communicate on a spiritual
level that is difficult to describe; you have an innate,
intuitive, psychic connection.
You “know” the other, but your knowing is much more than an
understanding; as rational as you try to make it all, you cannot
come up with any logical explanation.
On the spiritual, nonphysical side, where your souls exist, your
higher selves, you see the colors in your energy patterns change,
and this is communicated to you in your physical life. This
concept is still too foreign at this point in human evolution for
most people to understand. To put it simply, your spiritual selves
“see” what you are going through.
Barbara Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker,
spiritual author of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship
Guide to Being THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man" and "Individual
Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder
of The Rose Group publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute
of Higher Self Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.
http://www.borntoinspire.com
Relationship Advice by Nancy Pina
Hi Nancy,
I really need your help, because if I just keep letting things go
on the way they are, it could be a big mistake. Well, I have been
dating this guy for 3 months now and everything is really
good...except for the fact that I am struggling with internal
insecurities.
I went through a lot in past relationships and I feel like it's
impossible for me to not think he'll do the same. He explains
things to me but I always feel like he's being dishonest.
The other night, he got a call at 4 in the morning and he told me
it was his cousin. I got really skeptical even though he had a
full explanation as to what she wanted and everything that was
going on. but I mean, who's cousin would call at that hour?
A few minutes later he started complaining that he was so
exhausted and he wanted to go to bed...the whole time I was
thinking he just wanted to call whoever that was back. I just
always have this gut feeling that he's cheating on me. I really
don't know what to do because I don't want to lose him but what if
all of my gut feelings and instincts are right?
I will feel like such a fool. I really have no way of knowing if
he's doing anything wrong...all I have are all these crazy
thoughts and feelings running though my mind day in and out.
There's just always little things that send these thoughts running
through my mind. I try my hardest not think like that but its sooo
hard. He won't let me go through his phone either....does that
mean he's hiding something?
I never know how to think of things. I just really don't want to
push him away if he's being faithful and honest. what should I
do??
Thank you,
Denise
Dear Denise,
Thank you for writing to me about your relationship concerns.
You are dealing with feelings of abandonment in your
relationships, and this fear did not originate with this
relationship.
Usually, abandonment develops early in life with your relationship
with your father or mother … where you felt that they either were
not there for you emotionally or physically did leave the family.
Because you have not made peace with this, you are recreating this
feeling through your adult relationships.
Even if your boyfriend is not cheating on you now, you are
unconsciously setting the stage for that to occur. It is the
mind’s way of proving that your core belief that
the people you love will leave you true.
I encourage you to take this opportunity and work through the
circumstances that have occurred in your past and led you to form
such a strong core belief. It is sabotaging your relationships
from the very beginning.
It is important that you do this so you can experience the love
that God intends for your life.
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May God bless your life and may you
experience abundant love!
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