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IN TODAY'S RELATIONSHIP ADVICE ISSUE:
Guest Article: Society's Misconception of Soul Mates, Part 1
By Barbara Rose
Today’s Relationship Advice by Nancy
"Happiness lies in the joy of
achievement and the thrill of
creative effort."
*Franklin D. Roosevelt
"Knowledge is power, but only wisdom is liberty."
*Will Durant {1885-1981 American Historian}
Society's Misconception of Soul
Mates, Part 1
By Barbara Rose
Society’s current conception of the term “soul mate” is completely
contrary to what the term really means. Imagine two gallons of
water taken from the Atlantic
Ocean. Both gallons consist of the same energy because they were
both part of the same ocean. Yet each gallon will have its own
experience separate from the other.
Now imagine a soul in the nonphysical realm that chooses to
experience different aspects of itself by inhabiting two different
people. Those people consist of the same
energy as that one soul: they are soul mates.
Most people on planet Earth do not meet their true soul mates; to
do so, to reach the stage where the gift of reunion becomes
manifest requires lifetimes of growth and evolution. So far, only
about two percent of the human population have actually met their
true soul mates.
When most people think of soul mates, they picture a man and woman
walking in some eternal garden of mental, emotional, and physical
paradise right here on Earth, without a day’s worry or tearful
eye. But as those who have met their soul mates will attest, this
picture of a garden of eternal, blissful paradise is anything but
the truth. Yet, once the challenges of their special union have
been met successfully, it becomes the truth.
How will you know if yours is indeed a union of soul mates? I will
tell you.
How it feels to be in a union of soul mates
From the moment you meet, there is a certain familiarity, a
knowing you cannot describe in words. In the beginning of your
relationship, you do, in fact, feel as if you were in heaven on
Earth. You feel love, a union, as if you were a perfect match,
which you are. You blend on all levels and in all ways. You feel
that you share something unique, something mysterious yet so
familiar. You understand each other instinctively, intuitively,
and easily, as if you had known each other for eons, as indeed you
have.
You see right through to each other’s core, and you see each
other’s best. Each of you is amazed, captivated, even overcome by
the other’s energy, intelligence, grace, and natural abilities;
yet, at the same time, you see all of the other’s weaknesses, the
areas in which growth is needed. You are not bothered by these
weaknesses, however, because you know or believe the other has
what it would take to meet
these challenges and grow through them.
Your bond is akin to white on rice. You fit together hand in
custom-made glove. And, despite being so alike, you embody vast
differences. Certainly biological differences: one male, one
female. And perhaps intellectual differences: you may be at
opposite ends of the intellectual spectrum, with one of you
scientifically inclined and the other, spiritual. Yet in your core
you each carry and sustain a comfort level, a feeling of safety
and innate understanding you can never put into words. For how can
you possibly describe understanding the very depths of one another
such a short time after your physical meeting in this life. You
cannot. It is inherent. Natural. It simply is.
And it is what you share: your souls, your energy, how in sync you
are with each other, how you can sometimes finish each other’s
sentences, how you have a psychic connection that you have never
experienced before. When you are together,
you do, in fact, feel you are in your own heaven, your own
paradise. You are, after all, with your true other half, so,
naturally, you feel as natural with the other and, at times,
understand the other more than you understand your self. Do you
know why?
Because you chose to meet in this life to grow. This is where the
challenges come into play.
How the soul-mate reunion brings profound growth and
transformation
A short while after your blissful bond becomes intense, the
challenges – the true reasons why you chose to meet again and join
physically in this life – come to the surface.
Havoc ensues.
Surely you are not on this Earth to stagnate but to grow. And so
ruffles appear within the relationship. But the ruffles have a
purpose: they bring to your attention those areas within that each
of you must confront, work through, and ultimately heal. No one
but your true soul mate could intuitively pull out from your core
depths those precise areas that need to grow and heal.
Of course growth is uncomfortable; it is far easier to stagnate.
Therefore, you may find yourselves engaged in a tug of war. You
may even break up temporarily. But no matter how hard you try, you
cannot ever escape the truth of your natural bond. That bond, made
up of the energy and chemistry you share with your soul mate, can
never be broken. Because you cannot escape the truth, you have to
face it; And when you do, you reap great rewards indeed. When you
try to deny or turn away from the reasons you chose to be with
your true match, however, you put yourself through unnecessary
pain.
It is precisely those areas of growth that you are meant to
confront, work through, and heal – the areas your true match has
gotten you to notice – that make you to want to run and hide.
But because you can’t hide from the truth, you begin, slowly, to
realize that yes, you do have issues, core issues that you deserve
to heal. And your soul mate sees those issues quite clearly, but
they do not bother him or her nearly as much as they bother you.
They are simply your deepest challenges; once you meet them, they
are healed. Then you experience once again so much of that heaven
on Earth the two of
you had at the beginning of your relationship.
Denying those challenges is like trying to fight the current of a
powerful river. That river is your soul, trying to carry you home
to that place of wholeness within where the false views and
perceptions of self are finally healed.
Fighting this current is fighting the course you chose in order to
heal. Meeting your soul mate is the gift that enables you to heal
those aspects of your being you have been longing to heal.
This process has been set in motion only because you chose to meet
your true other half in this life, to experience the healed,
validated, and wonderful being that you are. It is in sharing your
growth process with the one who has the same energy you do, the
one with whom you fit so perfectly, that you are able to see that
process in action. It is then that you experience that
heaven-on-earth feeling and, together,
experience the perfect fit again. The paradox is that in order to
maintain that fit, you must heal that part within which no longer
serves your evolutionary growth.
The patterns of eons past no longer fit. So, in this life, you
chose to meet the one who you knew from the beginning was your
perfect match.
Fight as you may, that truth shall always be there. And, more than
you can imagine, your soul mate is rooting for you to grow. Grow
through and heal the false views of self that hinder your
evolution, that cause you to stagnate unnecessarily in a life into
which you were born to live, experience, explore, thrive, and
share the essence of yourself.
You try to run, but you cannot. Your heart longs for that one
person, that one true match who understands you so and whose love
is so pure. You have known that all along. And though you may feel
you do not deserve that love, this feeling is a fallacy.
We all deserve love, soul mate or not.
Barbara Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker,
spiritual author of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship
Guide to Being THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man" and "Individual
Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder
of The Rose Group publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute
of Higher Self Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.
http://www.borntoinspire.com
Relationship Advice By Nancy Pina
Dear Nancy,
I really appreciate the way you advise people through this site. I
really help me a lot.
I want to use this opportunity to ask for your advise as regards
the relationship I am into right now.
I am dating this young man since Feb 2002 and till now still
giving me excuses of not having enough money for wedding, and
still wanting me to be with him. If he sees me talking to any man
he will be jealous, I cannot receive phone call from any man, he
will be jealous. I love this young man to an extend I don't want
to lose him. Can you please advise me if really he want me as a
wife or he is just using me. I will be very grateful to hear from
you.
Regards,
Cynthia
Dear Cynthia,
Thank you for writing to me and for your kind words.
The right man for you will not have any excuses for putting off
the wedding. He will want to marry you regardless of his financial
situation as weddings come in all shapes and sizes. After all, it
is the marriage that is important, not the ceremony.
I don't know why he is putting off the wedding, but it is an
excuse you do not have to live with. The right man will make you
his number one priority in life and treat you with the love,
respect and honor you deserve. Being jealous is not a sign of
respect for you Cynthia, it is a sign of his insecurity.
I encourage you to tell him you want to set a wedding date or end
the relationship. After three years, enough time has passed for
this man to know if he wants to get married to you or not.
Please do not allow more time to pass waiting for him to make up
his mind. You deserve to experience the joyous love and commitment
that comes with marriage
to a man that God has ordained for you.
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