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Welcome to Relationship Advice by
Nancy Pina IN TODAY'S ADVICE
ISSUE:
Guest Article: Sometimes We Need To
Be Stripped of Everything In Order To Rebuild - by Heather Tait
Today's Relationship Advice by Nancy
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"The world is a great mirror. It reflects back to you what you
are. If you are loving, if you are friendly, if you are helpful,
the world will prove loving and friendly and helpful to you. The
world is what you are."
*Thomas Dreier
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TODAY'S GUEST ARTICLE:
Sometimes We Need To Be Stripped of
Everything In Order To Rebuild
by Heather J. Tait
Throughout life we will experience
many situations that will cause us to reach a "bottom". It seems
as though we have to be stripped of everything by spiritual laws
in order to rebuild upon a stronger foundation.
Before you can go up, you must hit
the extreme opposite and go down. It is these extremes that allow
us to find or regroup ourselves to that balanced middle we long
for.
Once we understand the nature of
this occurrence we are able to muster the strength we need to
continue on our path and stop and regain our focus. Some people
are stripped of their finances, some are stripped of family or
relationships, and some are stripped of material or personal
items. Whatever it may be, the loss is a necessary occurrence for
us to reach a gain.
At times it allows us to focus on
what really is important in life alone. We may find that we really
can get by on a very simplistic way of life. We can really live
modestly on a confined budget. We can even live in simple rooms
and have basic clothing and basic amenities. When we are stripped
of all that we have in some way, shape, or form, we are then
destined to turn inward.
When we focus on our true identity
and nature of purpose, the highs and lows become nonexistent. We
can be stripped of everything and still stand tall. We can still
maintain focus on our well being and the love we have to offer in
our hearts.
We may even discover that our loss
was actually a favor in disguise.
Perhaps there was something else we
needed to direct our attention towards. Maybe we needed to
redirect our path in life. Or perhaps we were stripped of
everything so that we were able to take a moment to pause for
reflection.
Capturing the meaning behind the
actions that occur in life is not only essential for our own inner
guidance, but also essential for our personal growth. Pay
attention to the actions and situations in your life. When you
observe the patterns, you will often find that you weren't on your
way down at all. you were on your way up.
Artist and Inspirational Writer
Heather J. Tait began her career as a professional artist back in
1997 in Morgan Hill, CA.
Her work and articles are displayed
internationally. She is also the founder of Silence Speaks
International Artist
Association and the Editor of
Intrigue Magazine. She has also been inducted into the 2004-2005
Who's Who Among American Women.
http://www.silencespeaks.com
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TODAY'S RELATIONSHIP ADVICE BY NANCY
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Dear Nancy,
My name is Dena and I am a 22 year
old college grad who is about to enter medical school. I have a
boyfriend whom I have been dating for about 14 months. When we
first met, we had a chemistry that I have never experienced with
anybody before.
We were instant best friends and
things were blissful for so long.
However, when that honeymoon phase
ended and we started arguing,I am usually very emotional and yell
and cry a lot, while he becomes angry and yells at me. Our fights
are very loud and intense but once we have hashed it out, the
issue is resolved.
My friends have overheard the
fighting and think that he is not a good guy because they don't
like the way he talks to me.
They don't understand that aside
from the fights, we are still best friends and he makes me
incredibly happy.
Now, college is over and I hate the
fact that my college friends dislike my boyfriend. I am beginning
to have doubts on whether he is right for me, because I have never
had a serious relationship before so I am basing my doubts on what
my friends have said to me. I know its not right to worry about
what they think, and I should do what makes me happy, but how do I
know if these loud, angry fights are healthy?
I have no basis for comparison
since he is my first everything. My boyfriend suggested taking a
break to see what else is out there, but I really think he is my
soulmate and I am afraid that if we find new people, it will be
too painful to ever get back together. He feels confident that if
we are soulmates, it will all work out. I don't know what to do
because all of this relationship stuff is new to me. I'm scared,
can you offer me advice?
Dear Dena,
Thank you for writing to me and
sharing your relationship concerns. It is important that you
listen to your intuition in regard to your future with your
boyfriend. If your friends are basing their dislike of your
boyfriend on one incident, that is not an unbiased opinion.
All couples have their own way of
resolving issues. Keep in mind that it is healthy to disagree in
relationships, but it's not a license to say hurtful things to one
another. Relationships are driven by feelings, and if too many
hurtful things are said, it changes the energy of the
relationship. Apologies sometimes don't make the emotional pain go
away.
Personally, I do not believe in
taking relationship breaks, as the same issues will still be there
when you get back together. Relationships are about learning how
to compromise with each other and clearly communicating your needs
and desires. It is unrealistic for you or your boyfriend to
expect to have your way all the time.
Dena, if your boyfriend makes you
happy, and you make him happy - that's really all that matters.
Try to pick your arguments with discretion - there's no need to
have a knock-down, drag out fight over everything.
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